What is love?
“BEST THING THAT CAN EVER HAPPEN”
This has been preached by all. Your parents tell you, your cousins tell you, your friends and the list never ends.
It’s being preached by bollywood and moreover by yogi as well.
We’ve been psyched with the philosophy of love to the extent that we search for nothing but love.
There are 3 stages of falling in love which no one told us about
- Crush
- Liking
- Love
It’s not crush anymore, it’s just LOVE.
We end up falling in love and especially this generation where love happens every month or probably every day.
I’ll tell you how love can screw up thing for you.
There is a word called ‘RECIPROCATION’
And the issue is no one has ever thought us about a term called ‘RECIPROCATION’
Probably they too were not aware of it.
For any story to be a love story it’s important that this reciprocation happens from both the ends and not just in your thoughts but in reality.
I’ll tell you where this comes from because it gets difficult to digest if you are rejected. Simple we make up our thoughts and think about that person.
The best way to get close to that person is friendship and know her likes and dislikes.
Most of us have a tendency of changing ourselves once we know this. And the problem of loving a person is majorly that you stop loving yourself. You start blaming and introspecting yourself after every argument even though you weren’t wrong.
Heer-Ranjha, Laila- Majnun, Romeo- Juliet classic examples of true love.
2 things which we didn’t notice about them was
a) They didn’t end up being together
b) They didn’t have other problems
They loved each other probably because there were only 2 people in this relation.
But now a relation is not between 2 people but it is between a set of people and situations. This might include your partner's ex, your partner's best friend who hates you and probably even those people who pretend to be your partner's well-wisher but secretly want them. There are times where you might feel restless and probably would want to just go and punch them or ask them to stay out of your life, but trust me the only option you have is to deal with them with a smile(obviously fake).
Trust me this is just the beginning of the problem because this is not the only thing that you're worried about there are other things as well.
Obviously, you're not born with a golden spoon like Romeo, or you cannot write poems for your beloved like Majnun and nor are you as privileged as Ranjha that your family will let you play flute all day long.
We are common people and we have to slog to earn. When I say slog, I mean work hard to meet our deadlines, deal with new projects and not to forget be ready to hear crap from your superiors even after meeting the deadlines that you were expected to.
Your parents anyway don't like the partner that you're dating and would want your relationship to end at the earliest. So they try and bribe you by showing you pictures of girls/boys who they think would be suitable for you.
All of sudden the relation that you've been happy in feels like a burden. There might be times where you would want to be alone, be at peace with yourself but you cannot. You pick your cell phone and call your partner to talk to them because you are aware of 'your partner's ex, your partner's best friend who hate you and those people who pretend to be your partner's well-wisher but secretly want them'.
You probably compromise yourself to be available for that person even when you don't want to. There's a constant fear of losing the person just because you weren't available.
You might fight hard to be with the person you’ve always wanted and loved. But the harder you fight the faster you lose.
That special someone loses all her interest and just walks away with a simple line 'I don't think it's working anymore.'
And you're back to square one with a lot of unanswered questions in your mind that why did end abruptly was it physical aspect or monetary aspect, was I cheated on or did they find a better looking person or was it love that just faded away.
These questions can never be answered and the harder you try to find answers the more you lose yourself. And the saddest part is getting back that smile on your face, being able to be happy again, finding yourself back takes a lot of time.
But probably they're right 'LOVE IS THE BEST THING THAT CAN EVER HAPPEN'
