Money can't buy you everthing

 I was just sitting one day, worked up because of the professional life and the work pressure during the lockdown, making me realize that how I had distanced myself from people to complete my work and meet my deadlines. And my hands suddenly stopped pressing my keyboard and I noticed that the only motivating factor was money. 

If we come to think of it money has been a driving force in everyone's life. We work beyond our limits to earn money, which is definitely for a better lifestyle, to give our family all that they want and to meet their needs. We are constantly in a space where we upgrade ourselves, try and jump for a better position, better salary, more profits, more money.

Well, I buy the fact, that money is really important but it’s not the only thing which is important. Take a moment and think about it when was it when you spent time with your family or your loved ones, without your phone ringing. When was it that you were completely there for your children or your parents or spouse?

While we all run behind money, we often tend to forget how beautiful life is and there’s more to life than just money. And there’s a lot that money takes than just sweat to earn it. 

I come across people who are passionate about something but are not able to pursue it full-time as they need to earn, and for this, they sacrifice their passion, something which is really close to their heart and something that they are good at. It is really easy for them to choose a mediocre life than to follow their passion and be extraordinary.

A person would pursue CA, CFA, Law and constantly run behind gaining knowledge or to be precise a degree so that he can earn well. And it is not wrong, because that's how our mind has been trained to earn and save. One important thing which was never taught was to earn to save and spend. We don't spend half the amount that we earn on ourselves on something that we want to do. We are constant torn between earnings, meeting needs, and then saving. 

I had recently visited a mall and came across a child who wanted to buy chocolates for him, but his mother shouted and didn't buy him the chocolate. Apparently they were earning to give him a better future but isn't chocolate worth the smile that the kid would have if he got it. I'm sure at this point he didn't care for his future because for him that chocolate was more important at this point.

We all might have come across a situation where we want to go out on a holiday, but then we are busy calculating the budget of the trip. If we want to stay in a four-star hotel, the budget drives us mad and we come down to 3 stars or even a 2-star hotel. We wish to travel by flight but we come down to train to keep it within our budgets. We might even think of spending that money over there having good food, clubbing but rarely do we realize that we don't even do that because the budget has been back of our mind and then we start compromising on our trip. 

 Why was that money earned, 'FOR YOU RIGHT' or let's put it right 'FOR YOUR FAMILY' then why can't you spend it on yourself or your family? Why can't you just be you without thinking about the monetary aspect behind it?

I know a person who had saved ample money for his children and when they got the amount and that life which their father had seen for them, they couldn't handle that money. They had to sell their house and settle in a smaller house, pay off a few debts. One was into alcohol consumption which is where most of the savings went. I'm sure this was definitely what their father wanted. We probably don't even know who might actually use that money and how would it be used post your gone. Would it be used for something good or something like drugs, smoke, or alcohol

Isn't it good to probably give this time that you spend working for a better salary and position given to your children and your spouse? Won't a smile on their face and that moment be more precious? Wouldn't it be really good to go out and spend that money on yourself without the baggage of savings? Because experiences are what we need to live for. Why can't we create memories and moments that we could cherish, that we could probably talk about when we are probably 80.

It's really easy to follow the norms that have been set by society it takes courage to live for yourself as per your terms and conditions. It takes courage to once live for your dreams and the life you want.

We are so engrossed chasing money that we forget there's no harm to slow down in life, there is no harm waiting for the opportunity and there's no harm to be there for your family and spend. Savings will follow, the money will come to you at the right time. In my point of view, it's really important to know where to spend money because that would motivate and make you realize from where you need to earn money.

Money can't buy us everything, it can't put a smile on our face, it probably can help you buy things that would bring a smile on your face but a temporary one. It can't buy you time when you're at the last stage of your life to spend some time with your family. 

There was a time where barter trade existed, where people would trade grains or something which they had in ample to get something that they wanted. Money was never a matter of concern then, there was peace because you were not doing different things to get the things you wanted. It was comparatively a satisfying and more fulfilling life than what it is now.

Here I don't mean that we don't need to earn money, but definitely not at a cost where we regret not doing a few things that we wanted to. In my opinion, money is worthless without the importance that we give it. It's important to probably understand that we humans make money and money isn't making us. Like literally we humans are printing it.

Good or Bad- Who Decides??

We have all been brought up with a mentality of 'Do good to people even if they aren't, as goodness pays off''

And every time I hear there is a smile on my face and my heart is filled with a word, it travels like a bubble from my heart to my mouth and that is 'FUCK YOU'

And this reaction is not because of the feeling of hatred towards someone, I cannot trust a society who asks me to be 'good to people who are bad' and on the contrary tell me that 'Karma hits back'

It's like living in society where people want other people to suffer for their Karma and then stopping this process by saying be good to people. It is like a thief is trying to steal something from a corrupt politician but the cops come in and arrest the thief.

This doesn't mean that I don't believe in being good or doing good, it simply means I don't stand by the ideology of being good to everyone especially the ones who have hurt you.

We all might have somewhere in life had this experience wherein we were not treated right be it by your family, friends or relatives who are someone you cannot ignore, doesn't mean that we need to be good obviously because you haven't been treated well, there is a past which might not be good and I believe its completely fine if you are not in that zone of seeing that person again. There might be instances where you come across, which doesn't mean that you need to have those feelings or that need to be cordial again.

Unfortunately we live in a society where we have always been thought about how to be socially acceptable, but no one would ask you to be good to yourself.

The problem here is we don't really acknowledge the fact of life and try and remain blindfolded always. We as individuals can see and acknowledge good things that happen, but we choose to remain blindfolded where there are differences. I believe there is always a reason of past being past, or you not having a good experience with someone, and that is what needs to be acknowledged. There is no need to get back to the same shit just because your good. 

If we think according to our mythology 'Kalyug' is what we are currently in, which basically means that atrocities and unfair behaviour would be really common here. If I put my thoughts clearly it would be like world consists of Assholes and You are going to be one person who would do good to them. The world doesn't need this goodness. You have all the right to be an Asshole to an Asshole, there is no saying 'An eye for an eye makes the world blind' true in today's day.

There have been instances, where in a girl is molested by her relative, molested by her father yet she is expected to be good to them since they are elder to her. Is that what is really needed?

Think of it honestly and the answer is 'NO'. Yet there is a constant pressure on her to be good and cordial with them, we won't think what is her thought process or how disgusted she might be feeling even seeing them. But there is no way out since they are her relatives she has to be cordial and adjust. 

Is this what being good really means, because if this means being good and socially acceptable I don't think being good is really worth it.

Yes, you need to be good and considerate for a few people who you are genuinely attached to, that is where your loyalty lies and they are someone who would never hurt you or have your back. It's not blood or family relations that should determine your behaviour. 

And most importantly it's really important for you to be good to one person under any circumstances and that is 'YOU'. No one would probably treat you right other than you yourself. It's really important to understand your experiences and then determine what to react to someone. It's not what you've been taught but it's what you learn in the life and that's what is probably important. It is important to have your views rather than someone teaching you how to be.

In a world of Assholes, if your a comparatively a lesser asshole, trust me it's good. Because you help Karma do it's role and you do your role of being good.

The Most Overrated word- Love

What is love?

“BEST THING THAT CAN EVER HAPPEN”

This has been preached by all. Your parents tell you, your cousins tell you, your friends and the list never ends.

It’s being preached by bollywood and moreover by yogi as well.

We’ve been psyched with the philosophy of love to the extent that we search for nothing but love. 

There are 3 stages of falling in love which no one told us about

1. Crush
2. Liking
3. Love

It’s not crush anymore, it’s just LOVE.

We end up falling in love and especially this generation where love happens every month or probably every day.

I’ll tell you how love can screw up thing for you.

There is a word called ‘RECIPROCATION’

And the issue is no one has ever thought us about a term called ‘RECIPROCATION’

Probably they too were not aware of it.

For any story to be a love story it’s important that this reciprocation happens from both the ends and not just in your thoughts but in reality.

I’ll tell you where this comes from because it gets difficult to digest if you are rejected. Simple we make up our thoughts and think about that person.

The best way to get close to that person is friendship and know her likes and dislikes.

Most of us have a tendency of changing ourselves once we know this. And the problem of loving a person is majorly that you stop loving yourself. You start blaming and introspecting yourself after every argument even though you weren’t wrong.

Heer-Ranjha, Laila- Majnun, Romeo- Juliet classic examples of true love. 

2 things which we didn’t notice about them was 

a) They didn’t end up being together

b) They didn’t have other problems

They loved each other probably because there were only 2 people in this relation.

But now a relation is not between 2 people but it is between a set of people and situations. This might include your partner's ex, your partner's best friend who hates you and probably even those people who pretend to be your partner's well-wisher but secretly want them. There are times where you might feel restless and probably would want to just go and punch them or ask them to stay out of your life, but trust me the only option you have is to deal with them with a smile(obviously fake).

Trust me this is just the beginning of the problem because this is not the only thing that you're worried about there are other things as well.

Obviously, you're not born with a golden spoon like Romeo, or you cannot write poems for your beloved like Majnun and nor are you as privileged as Ranjha that your family will let you play flute all day long. 

We are common people and we have to slog to earn. When I say slog, I mean work hard to meet our deadlines, deal with new projects and not to forget be ready to hear crap from your superiors even after meeting the deadlines that you were expected to.

Your parents anyway don't like the partner that you're dating and would want your relationship to end at the earliest. So they try and bribe you by showing you pictures of girls/boys who they think would be suitable for you.

All of sudden the relation that you've been happy in feels like a burden. There might be times where you would want to be alone, be at peace with yourself but you cannot. You pick your cell phone and call your partner to talk to them because you are aware of 'your partner's ex, your partner's best friend who hate you and those people who pretend to be your partner's well-wisher but secretly want them'. 

You probably compromise yourself to be available for that person even when you don't want to. There's a constant fear of losing the person just because you weren't available.

You might fight hard to be with the person you’ve always wanted and loved. But the harder you fight the faster you lose. 

That special someone loses all her interest and just walks away with a simple line 'I don't think it's working anymore.' 

And you're back to square one with a lot of unanswered questions in your mind that why did end abruptly was it physical aspect or monetary aspect, was I cheated on or did they find a better looking person or was it love that just faded away.

These questions can never be answered and the harder you try to find answers the more you lose yourself. And the saddest part is getting back that smile on your face, being able to be happy again, finding yourself back takes a lot of time.

But probably they're right 'LOVE IS THE BEST THING THAT CAN EVER HAPPEN'

CRUSH..!!!!

'I chose to love you in silence, for in silence I found no rejection. I chose to love you in my dreams, for in my dreams you'll just be mine.'

Yes that's what exactly a crush is and it hurts saying that this is the most underrated term.

This might sound a bit stupid but yeah crushes are more important and tend to have a better story than love.

This is because you any which ways don’t find love. If you love someone they don’t, if they do you don’t. It’s very difficult to find an equilibrium where both love each other.

Crushes are sweet, there’s no pressure of she/he liking you it’s just you and you’re aware of it.

It’s a sweet relation going on in your mind where she/he’s yours. There’s no competition because It’s like your happiness is in your hand unlike people in relation. You don't need him/her to complete your feelings for her

You don’t need to take extra efforts to impress that person or be with that person, live according to that person.

Even if you see him/her once you’re day is made and if that person smiles trust me you can probably spend 2 days thinking about it.

Small things give you happiness and memories. 

Adjusting your time to see him/her, going to the same place for coffee at the same time where that person comes. 

Or probably seeing him/her when through the window, trying to be the mischievous one so that she notices or probably teasing her with some other person because tumhe toh dude lagna hai.

Most of us hate waiting, but trust me waiting for your crush is the best thing.

Probably we all might have experienced it at some point in time maybe in school, college, classes or office.

Remember continuously Looking at the door or window waiting for her, well the weirdest part is the wait ends with a smile on your face.

Also, we try hard to be close to our crush.

Be it sitting next to her in class or probably going in the same area where she is.

And trust me if we’ve had good friends we exactly knew where our crush was.

The longest conversation which we might have held would be a ‘Hi’, ‘All the best’, ‘Congrats’ but even while doing this we might be blushing.

But for our best friends, she was already their ‘bhabhi’

There’s a lot of innocence when it comes to crushes

And the best part about crushes is that they are usually someone who we ourselves know can never be ours.

But since the entire story is just ours we never lose ‘Apne kahani ke hero to hum hi hai..haar thodi sakte hai’

But then there are a few real-life heroes who actually start dating their crush. These people leave us with two important thoughts.

1. Yeh isse patti kaise?
2. Isse acha toh main hu, try kar leta toh mujhse bhi hojata.

Different people, similar story!!

We all believe that we are different from each other. We tend to differentiate ourselves on the basis of caste and more importantly money. Hindu or muslim, christian or sikh, rich or poor, there’s one thing that keeps us on the same page and that is our life.
During one of my training a gentleman said, "One person who you cannot ever lie, is the person you see in the mirror." I thought it would be an experience if I try to do that and I tried doing so. I was standing in front of the mirror with a fake smile, which soon disappeared, my eyes looked tired and after few seconds I could not even smile. I failed miserably and the only thing that I realised and said was, "This is not me, this cannot be me. This is not what I want to be."
This made me realise that except for our face everything was similar. Similar formal shirt, formal pant a bag, the timings and moreover ' OUR STORY'.
Most of us have one thing in common and that is a dissatisfaction towards what we do. Money has been a driving source for all the decisions that we've been making. There might have been a time when your boss comes and shouts at you for something that you haven't even done, there might be thought of leaving the job but you can't because you are already tied up with things which depend on your job.
Some might have a home loan, some education loan and some might wait for another job to come in so that they don't be jobless. Probably most of us are doing something we never wanted to.
We've been trained to adjust to everything be it good or bad, sensible or not, whether you are good at it or not, as long as you are earning you have to believe that you are good at it and if not you have to become good at it. We are asked to excel in a thing which we don't even care about and will never care about.
We've been constantly running a race to become a mediocre person not knowing where to go and why to go. There is no difference between a rich person and a poor, only the lifestyle is different but both are doing things which they wouldn't want to. And finally, we start complaining that our life has been difficult.
In my opinion, the thing which is most difficult is to follow and do what you always wanted to do. No matter you earn less, or initially, if you don't earn, there is a satisfaction which makes you happy. There would be a smile on your face when you see yourself in the mirror because you would be true to yourself. Money comes to you probably sooner or later, but the person lost is lost. 

Suggestions for mediocrity

The only thing which is free in the world other than air is suggestion. In fact, it is so free in nature that it has become a part of everyone's nature.
You want a suggestion or not, you'll have to hear them and will be expected to follow them. There comes a phase, particularly after 10th standard where everyone suddenly becomes  concerned about you. Everyone comes and suggests which field you should choose. After your 12th standard, there are some more suggestions regarding your career and after your graduation some more. This keeps on continuing throughout. The funniest thing is that these suggestions are very generic but the people who suggest behave in such a way that if they wouldn't have given this suggestion you would have been clueless about what to do in life. In fact, most of the suggestions are what we know.
Their suggestions would be like you're in science, study hard to get good marks in your 12th. After that, you can get into engineering or probably become a doctor.
Some of them try to test your patience by giving suggestions. Once, someone came to me and suggested me to do CA, the next day the same person suggested me to do MBA. And I was like, " I'll give you a suggestion, please stop suggesting."
Your parents want you to do something productive in life, which means that they will ask everyone the come across to give you suggestions. Your uncle, aunt, cousins, grandfather, grandmother all start giving suggestions, mostly irrelevant.
I've realised one thing which is imperative to be mentioned, it is always easy to suggest rather than preaching.
Your family would tell someone to pursue something, but if you want to pursue the same thing they would oppose it.
Everyone who suggests tries to take you one step toward a mediocre life. Because there are thousand of people giving similar suggestions and advices.
Throughout my life, I've received one suggestion which wasn't stupid and that was, " IF YOU DON'T LIKE SOMETHING, DON'T SPEND A MINUTE DOING IT."
Probably this is one thing which wouldn't lead to a mediocre life.

GOA- Beyond sex & drugs

GOA, A HELL OF A PLACE.

Alcohol, drugs, prostitution, sex, drug cartels. At least, this is what it has been portrayed as by our relatives, friends and Bollywood. The perception about Goa is so strong that every millennial wants to visit Goa at least once with his/her friends.

And this trip is something every millennial has been making for several years and needless to say it has been an unsuccessful plan.

Whenever you plan to go to Goa and your relatives come to know about it they have a standard reaction, “ bada hogaya hai, aish karega goa jaake hmm.” And your friends would be like, “ Bhai, mast peena udhar aur mere liye bhi koi ladki dhundke aana”

This made me realize two things, 

First, that you’re considered an adult when you plan to go to Goa. Second, your friends think that you’re a drunkard and they are way more confident about you than you are. Your elders think you’re going there to get drunk and take drugs and your friends think you’re going there for sex.

I’ve been to Goa several times, for those who are judging me, I would like to establish a fact that this is not the only thing which can be done there.

Goa is a place where you can be yourself and be rest assured that no one is judging you. There are a lot of nightclubs, alcohol, drugs, however, Goa is way beyond just that.

The people, the culture and the lifestyle are so different that it is a treat to be there. On my recent trip, I witnessed how Diwali was celebrated in Goa. Goans, celebrate Diwali by burning effigies of Narkasur, the demon king who was defeated by Lord Krishna. There are effigies on the road, loud music playing and people dancing on the road. Another festival which is celebrated with grandeur is the carnival which happens somewhere around the month of February or March. Balloons bobbed up in the air and colorful procession featuring horse-drawn carriages, decorated bullock carts, and gorgeously bedecked floats are the highlights of the parade. This parade signifies that Goa comes under the rule of King Momo, who preached " kha, piye aani majja kar."
Beaches, other attraction of Goa is one of the most peaceful places. You can indulge in water sports, go for a swim or probably just lay down on the sunbeds, read a book, listen to music and look at the waves. Sometimes, doing nothing is a better experience. Panjim, the capital of Goa is one place which boasts architectural brilliance. The Portugal architecture with vibrant colors is a treat to watch. 
If you are a shopaholic Goa is a place which would excite you. You'll come across small shops on both the sides of the road selling everything, right from clothes to jewelry. Talking about shopping, Saturday night market is one place where you'll come across a variety of products which are sold by locals and foreigners. Other than this there are performances by bands. Also, you can buy a drink from a bar and enjoy the food. You can also go for shopping at Arambol, one of the uncharted beaches of Goa. The Arambol drum circle and sunset flea market is where you can shop and also enjoy some soothing music. More than the market it is a party, where people bring drums, guitars and meet here every day and make music as the sun sets.
I agree that drugs, prostitution, alcohol are prominent in Goa. However, the beauty of this place lies beyond this.

Extraneous learning

If you are taught to do something without any logic behind it, welcome to INDIAN SOCIETY.

To all those who got offended after reading the first line, I won't be apologetic and I'll try that you understand what I am trying to say. I'll go step by step and probably you'll understand.

Let's start with schooling and college life. 

Remember mathematics, where throughout the years you were taught to find the value of 'x', now this is something no one will ask you find out. Imagine in your professional life your superior coming to you any saying "Please find the value of x by the end of the day or else you'll be sacked." The only time you'll find the value of 'x' is after your breakup.

Second subject which is confusing is Economics, where everyone was tensed because they wanted to pass. However, if you carefully study you'll understand that it made no sense. It had weird comparisons and weird conditions. Sale of wine was being compared with sale of cloth, they had assumed there is no transportation cost, no barriers, only two countries trading, which is not possible in real world. Moreover, every chapter in the end said that the chapter was based on certain assumptions and had limitations, which made the whole chapter meaningless.
Second thing which was taught to us was respecting elders, this again has no relevance. If you go and ask your parents why do we need to respect elders they wouldn't be having any reason. They'll probably tell you have to respect them because they were born before you.You are not taught to respect everyone, you have to respect elders who are your relatives. Also, you have to bend down and touch their feet as a sign of respect. This basically means that you need not respect a person by heart, you can abuse him, but whenever you meet just touch his feet.

And the funniest thing is as you grow up everyone expects you to behave in a sensible way. Now this is something we haven't been taught. We've been taught to behave like a robot and believe what your elders say, you are not allowed to question what is right and wrong. We all are blindfolded and asked to follow what we hear.

Well, I'm not being a critic, but in my opinion respecting people isn't bad, but not everyone who are not worth it. I don't see the need to respect someone who himself doesn't respect others. Probably it would make more sense to respect someone who has earned that, whether he is younger to you or elder.

We cannot blame our parents or our elders for teaching us this, probably even they were taught this by their parents.

It is really important to question our actions, at least so that when we have children we don't teach them to blindly follow someone.

Social media and friendship

Social media has become an integral part of our life. We can't imagine ourselves without social media applications. It has helped us connect with everyone around the world. Moreover, social media has become an indicator of your coolness level. Most of us are busy showing the world what we are doing so that they come to know how cool we are.
Whenever we go it is important to upload a status on social media applications.
Your food arrives, you click a picture and upload it. You go somewhere, you click a picture and upload it and some also share the location of where they are
If you have 1000 followers or friends on instagram or facebook, trust me you have achieved something worth in your life. Everyone would be like " Iske 1000 followers hai yaar".
Once I met my uncle and his friends, who clicked a selfie just so that they could post it on social media.
I have a very close friend, however I am confused now whether are we even friends?
We don't have a picture together that we have posted on a social media account. We haven't tagged each other on any post or status. Moreover, we don't even talk to each other regularly, we don't impose our decisions on each other, we don't fight with each other if we don't meet for months.
Probably people don't even know that we are friends.
I guess we are not friends, because we don't fit into the criteria of being friends.
However, we know and respect each others life and their schedule.We call each other for advice, we call each other whenever we get time because it makes us happy. We don't meet each other regularly, but yes we know we'll be there for each other.
I guess we aren't friends, probably brothers for life. We don't need social media to prove how close we are.
At the end what matters is a friend who is there for us. I don't wish to have 1000 friends on facebook who won't be there for me. I just need few friends who I can rely on throughout my life..!!!

RELATIONS..!!!

RELATIONS
A 7 letter word, but very deep.
To be honest, I'm confused how to consider this word, is it good or bad??
Probably we don't even realize what all we do and how we lose ourselves. Well here's how different relations take you for a ride at least in India.
Your parents want you to become the best so that you do well in life. CA, MBA, Engineering, Doctor, etc and most of us listen to them.
'You want to get into sports and make your career in it but your parents ask you to first get a degree so that you have a backup and can earn well'
Probably this is the only place where more importance is given on the backup.
And as we all know, we end up leaving what we want to do. We just follow them and once you're doing well, your parents get you married.
When you have a spouse your priorities change. You fulfill your responsibilities, have a child, live for your family, fulfill your kid's demand, your spouse's demand. This is the time where we all think of just earning so that we can give them all the leisure that they want. Be it your child's education ot giving the best to your wife.
And then comes a time when you get old, well you can hardly do anything by this time but yes you can probably go to satsang or take care of your grandchildren when you have one or probably think that I wish I would have done that.
Throughout the life which was apparently your life was there a moment which you felt was yours..!!
Take a second think about it, the people you worked for, for whom you did everything to be the best, did you wait for a second to be with them. Do you have any memory where you gave all your time without any worries to either of them
And the most important person who you forgot in this entire thing was YOU. The only way to live is the way you want,the way you always wanted it to be.
You cannot satisfy everyone, you aren't responsible for everyone's happiness. Because there will always be something which would make someone unhappy with your action.
The only person who can be satisfied is you. Do what you feel like, take chances, even if you fail you will be satisfied with a thought that at least you tried. The failure would still give you a sense of satisfaction of doing and failing in what you wanted to.
At least when you're old sitting somewhere with a cup of coffee you will be satisfied that you were you and not a robot living according to others and fulfilling things where you lost your dreams, your aspirations..

PARAMETER OF GROWTH

My last blog spoke about "LOG KYA KAHENGE"
This one talks about a parameter of our growth and success. There is this one special person, who has been inspiring and motivating us to do something in our life. He is none other that "SHARMAJI KA LADKA."
He is someone our parents tell us about and we probably want to be like him or achieve more than what he has. "Sharma ke ladke ko dekh" this line has been in India since a long time.
This reference was given by my grandfather to my father, the same reference was given to my grandfather by my great grandfather. So when my father came and said " Sharma ke ladke ko dekh", I was like Mr. Sharma's son might have been dead because if he's alive he is IMMORTAL and also he's INVISIBLE. If you carefully think he might be next to GOD. Because the only person who is IMMORTAL and INVISIBLE is GOD.
People in other countries make a graph of where they want to see themselves after five years, the generally tend to have an upward graph. We tend to have a flat graph for many years because we are constantly searching for Sharma and his ladka so that we get a direction where we have to go.
He is a parameter to judge our growth.
Whenever I come across any Sharma, I just have one question " kya yeh woh Sharma hai jiska beta perfect hai, jiske baare main sab mujhe bol rahe hai"
This is important because probably I'll get a direction in life.
We are living in a society where we are compared with an invisible person just so that we can do well in life..!!
Well the only two things that I can learn is, never compete with an invisible person or God whoever you think Mr. Sharma ka ladka is.
And second is that competition may be good only if you compete with yourself. You'll probably do well in life if there is no competition with others.Competition might just drain you out, because everyone has a different skill set which they are good at.
IT IS IMPORTANT TO FOCUS ON YOUR SKILL TO BE SUCCESSFUL.

LOG KYA KAHENGE??

India is one country where everyone is more concerned about you. Your parents, your family, but other than them there is a group of people who are more concerned about you, and they are the so-called ' LOG'
No one knows who they are, where they are, how they look and why do they even exist. But everyone is intimidated by them be that your parents, your family, your friends or you. Everyone has a standard question "Log kya kahenge?"
This is a parameter we use to judge whether what we are doing is right or wrong. If you want to know whether your decision is right or wrong, just ask one question, "Log kya kahenge?". Don't worry if you don't ask this there are many who will.
Go to your parents, tell them about you are planning to make a career in dancing, the first question will be " Log kya kahenge?"
Go to your relative, tell them you will get married only by the age of 30, the first question will be "Log kya kahenge?"
A girl wants a divorce due to violence at her place, everyone will be like, "Log kya kahenge?"
Probably freedom of speech is misused in India because a lot of people are asking irrelevant questions and trying to influence your life.
This question is the biggest influencer of our career and choices.
Just ask this question and then you are not doing half the things that you want to. You are doing things that you feel people will appreciate and in case you fail, the same people are talking about you
Even if a famous writer writes, people are like " Bas likhta hai."
A dancer earns well by choreographing, people are like " Nachta hi toh hai, kya rakha hai usme"
There are many such examples where the group of these uncreative people comment on. They are so uncreative that an engineer who earns 20,000 a month is someone who they will compare you with.
Basically, they are the 'LOG' who haven't achieved something, because people who have achieved, they don't give a shit about you.
 Probably most of the successful people who we admire didn't care about "LOG KYA KAHENGE??"

IS IT WORTH IT??

Have you ever frustrated with your work, your responsibilities at work so that your superior doesn't come and shout at you. Have you ever felt the pressure of being good to family and friends just because your socially acceptable and that no one talks bad about you.

Here is something that happened to me. One fine day I was stuck in traffic and it was raining heavily. Deep down in my mind I was abusing everyone and everything happening in my life. It suddenly struck me that this is what i always wanted. As a five year old I saw my parents sleep till 9 a.m, but I had to get up at 6 a.m so that I could go to school. I always wanted to be an adult so that I could sleep till 9 a.m & take holidays whenever I wished to and as years past I grew up.
But, the biggest question is ' THAT IS THIS WHAT I WANTED??'

I realized that the only thing which troubled us as a child was our homework which we always wanted to escape on the other hand adulthood introduced us to powerpoint which makes us spend a lot of time on computer when we start working. Basically we start hating computer which we loved the most during our childhood
We lost our friends who cared for us, supported us, motivated us and most importantly had faith in us.They were replaced by our colleagues who were behind our ass so that they could be much better in this competitive world
Well, this reminds me of the competitions we had in school and this was the only time where we were competitive with each other.
Adulthood definitely taught us a lot of manipulative games but wasn't playing cricket, badminton, football better than this.
We lost our innocence, became mature, competitive so that we win in life. So that we prove others that we are better than them
I always waited for summers when I was in school and college because that meant holiday for two months but now I hate it because now I have to go to work no matter what
I hate rains as well, because if I have to reach somewhere for a meeting I cannot afford to get wet, but when I was a child I used to specially call my friends so that we could go down and enjoy rains

Somewhere, sometime maybe for a second we all might have thought ' I wish I could become a child again'
We might have realized that out of all the things that we loved as a child we probably hate most of it as an adult

The only question that I have is ' WAS THE ADULTHOOD I ASKED FOR WORTH IT'